I know, I know, I really shouldn’t be so hard on myself. Nothing went/is going catastrophically wrong, and most days I actually feel very proud of myself and the effort I’m putting forth towards speaking Spanish, being social with people despite the language barrier, and enjoying Quito and life here for what it is, foreign and unfamiliar and new. I guess I just feel like everything at this point should be getting so much easier…and it isn’t really. I know that my Spanish is definitely improving, and that I know my way around the city 10X better than I did when I first arrived, and that I am discovering new things each day that make this place feel a little bit more like home. But then there are days like yesterday where everything still feels annoyingly difficult and stressful and just plain exhausting, and I convince myself that maybe I can’t handle so many challenging changes and unknowns.
(On a side note, I find it all too ironic that I always joke that the C1s (Duke’s bus system) stress me out more than anything else at Duke…and wouldn’t you know, the buses here also seem to be my main cause of stress. Clearly God thinks I still have a ways to go with my patience with buses. Probably true.)
When I first arrived in Kenya back in June, it felt strangely like I had been there before, like it was a place I’d known my whole life. The transition was oddly smooth, surprisingly easy, with little-to-no culture shock, and I fell instantly in love with anything and everything Kenya-related – the country, the people, my team. I felt a natural and genuine joy there like none I had experienced before. And while part of me wishes that every life adventure and risk ends up being that effortless, of course I’m not so naïve to think that that’s reality. In fact, for most people and most of the time, a huge life-shift (like moving countries, for example..) feels overwhelming and downright terrifying. It’s normal to feel that way. And as cliché as it sounds, it IS all part of the experience. I can handle it, it doesn't have to feel effortlessly easy, and God will walk through it all with me, every step of the way.
I told my parents the other day over Skype that I don’t think I would be able to handle everything that’s different about this semester abroad had I not learned what I did this summer in Kenya. And as I keep thinking about that statement, I've realized just how true it is. In Kenya I became much more rooted both in my identity – who God says I am and who I KNOW I am – and my faith. And I have absolutely relied on those things to keep me grounded and confident that God is not only taking care of me but that I also have permission to take care of myself – to treat myself with kindness and not have to worry about gaining other peoples’ approval or being instantly good at everything I do or try. It’s been challenging, yes, but challenges yield rewards – mainly, in my case, growth and faith – which I realized is what I’ve been praying for all along.
I'm so sorry you had a bad day...one thing I hated about living in the city was definitely the buses! Even though it's not easy, I'm so encouraged by your attitude...thanks for reminding me about the importance of keeping my identity rooted in Christ. Love you!
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